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Originally Posted by BRUTAL64
Not saying it's good or bad. I hear horror stories from the guys here at work all day long.
Then there is you, Ben and Sean,
It's great that you guys have the right person in your life. You guys are some of the lucky few. Most married guys I talk too are not as lucky as you, Ben and Sean.
Me. I've never been married and am in a relationship with marriage planed in the future.
But, I've just heard of so much pain from being married to the WRONG person.
You guys are blessed with good relationships. Most aren't.  |
More unsolisited advice from VZ.
Many people get into, and many more stay in relationships for the wrong reasons, based superficial reasons, or worst of all, fear of being alone, or god have mercy, sympathy. Scrap that crap, focus on basic compatibility, and it isn't rocket science. Then if both sides spend some effort making the other happy, and enjoy who they are for who they are, it works out. Here's my little table. You don't want to be exactly the same, but you definitely won't major overlap on these primary issues:
- money (a penny pincher and a spend thrift won't work)
- goal oriented (if one has seriously defined life goals, the other needs to share them or at least want to support them)
- religion/spirituality (an atheist and born again won't work)
- work (a work a holic and happy go lucky may not work)
- kids (not a lot of room for compromise here)
All totally obvious stuff. It's amazing how blinded people get to basic compatibility by other more, shall we say, base factors.
For me personally, a sense of humor is very important. If you can make each other laugh, it can really ease many other issues and tougher times.
Happy Wife Happy Life
