Sean, you're too damn smart to have married someone that wasn't right for you.
Boostn, you bought a Dodge, so I don't know about you.
But Kera does seem cool.
God... chiil out guys...
I never speak in absolutes and mean it, wait...
Obviously there are exceptions to the rule. I don't really believe that all women are evil, and I'm not prejudiced. But I am cautious, and very pessimistic and untrusting. And most of my relationships/ encounters with women have ended poorly. Women have proven to be less reliable and trustworthy than my Neon.
Sean, 8 years... I wouldn't worry too much.
But the rest of you, try to remove yourself from your bubble for a moment. From the outside I can tell you that everyone seems to be fully convinced that "this relationship is different" or "she is the one, this is different" or "I REALLY love this one." You know… you thought you were in love last time… but you had no idea.
But remember two relationships ago? When you thought it was love? But last time you realized that two times ago wasn't love, but last time was! But now, last time wasn't! But this is for sure! For sure! Your current relationship will always seem the most important, the most relevant, that's not reality (necessarily). It's just the way that we work. Our memory is full of gaps, unfortunately for us our highly influential brains decide to fill in these gaps (whether we realize it or not, and we don't). They do this to complete the picture, to make our world complete and understandable, the problem here is that we enable ourselves to change or diminish past memories, experiences, and emotions. This isn't coming out of my ass by the way, I did take a few things away from Grad school.
Furthermore, your current partner may in fact be perfect for you! All that you've ever hoped for, but people change. Sometimes drastically, sometimes fast. And you'll likely never see it coming. But you will be left alone, hurt and confused. Clinging to memories of the past, memories of a person that has changed so much they don't really 'exist' anymore.
So what I'm trying to say is, look at life rationally. Look at your relationships rationally, and be honest with yourself. This could be it, but it might not be. You're no exception, you're not different, you're susceptible to all of the horrible chance and all of the deception that everyone else is. And if you're gaga over someone that really isn't good for you, just because you can't see past the passion and imposition of your current relationship, you could be walking right past someone that is even better for you. Or worse condemning yourself to a life of mediocrity and/ or loneliness... whether you're single or not.
