Happy Wife Happy Life

[Leedom]

A man once told me.. Happy wife, happy life. I guess that is why I was miserable for 2006 and 2007. :suicide:

[94cobra69ss396]

A man once told me.. Happy wife, happy life. I guess that is why I was miserable for 2006 and 2007. :suicide:

Sorry to hear that but Amy and I just celebrated our 10th wedding anniversary last month.

[Vettezuki]

Sorry to hear that but Amy and I just celebrated our 10th wedding anniversary last month.

Newly Weds.

[94cobra69ss396]

Newly Weds.

We still feel that way.

[BRUTAL64]

Marriage talk----:censored::judge:

[94cobra69ss396]

Oh come on. Some of us are happily married. It's all about finding the right person. Amy and I dated for 5 years before we got married so that she could finish college.

[BRUTAL64]

Oh come on. Some of us are happily married. It's all about finding the right person. Amy and I dated for 5 years before we got married so that she could finish college.

Not saying it's good or bad. I hear horror stories from the guys here at work all day long.
Then there is you, Ben and Sean,
It's great that you guys have the right person in your life. You guys are some of the lucky few. Most married guys I talk too are not as lucky as you, Ben and Sean.

Me. I've never been married and am in a relationship with marriage planed in the future.

But, I've just heard of so much pain from being married to the WRONG person.

You guys are blessed with good relationships. Most aren't.:drink:

[Vettezuki]

Not saying it's good or bad. I hear horror stories from the guys here at work all day long.
Then there is you, Ben and Sean,
It's great that you guys have the right person in your life. You guys are some of the lucky few. Most married guys I talk too are not as lucky as you, Ben and Sean.

Me. I've never been married and am in a relationship with marriage planed in the future.

But, I've just heard of so much pain from being married to the WRONG person.

You guys are blessed with good relationships. Most aren't.:drink:


More unsolisited advice from VZ.

Many people get into, and many more stay in relationships for the wrong reasons, based superficial reasons, or worst of all, fear of being alone, or god have mercy, sympathy. Scrap that crap, focus on basic compatibility, and it isn't rocket science. Then if both sides spend some effort making the other happy, and enjoy who they are for who they are, it works out. Here's my little table. You don't want to be exactly the same, but you definitely won't major overlap on these primary issues:

- money (a penny pincher and a spend thrift won't work)
- goal oriented (if one has seriously defined life goals, the other needs to share them or at least want to support them)
- religion/spirituality (an atheist and born again won't work)
- work (a work a holic and happy go lucky may not work)
- kids (not a lot of room for compromise here)

All totally obvious stuff. It's amazing how blinded people get to basic compatibility by other more, shall we say, base factors. ;)

For me personally, a sense of humor is very important. If you can make each other laugh, it can really ease many other issues and tougher times.

[BRUTAL64]

More unsolisited advice from VZ.

Many people get into, and many more stay in relationships for the wrong reasons, based superficial reasons, or worst of all, fear of being alone, or god have mercy, sympathy. Scrap that crap, focus on basic compatibility, and it isn't rocket science. Then if both sides spend some effort making the other happy, and enjoy who they are for who they are, it works out. Here's my little table. You don't want to be exactly the same, but you definitely won't major overlap on these primary issues:

- money (a penny pincher and a spend thrift won't work)
- goal oriented (if one has seriously defined life goals, the other needs to share them or at least want to support them)
- religion/spirituality (an atheist and born again won't work)
- work (a work a holic and happy go lucky may not work)
- kids (not a lot of room for compromise here)

All totally obvious stuff. It's amazing how blinded people get to basic compatibility by other more, shall we say, base factors. ;)

For me personally, a sense of humor is very important. If you can make each other laugh, it can really ease many other issues and tougher times.

You make me laugh-----does that mean you and I.........no......... never mind.:rolling:


Seems like good points.:bigthumbsup:

I'm just not a good person to live with. I want sex all the time.:bang:

[94cobra69ss396]

I'm just not a good person to live with. I want sex all the time.:bang:

Like I said it's all about finding the right person.

[Leedom]

Sorry to hear that but Amy and I just celebrated our 10th wedding anniversary last month.

Sorry, nothing. I very much married the wrong person for the wrong reasons. IShe has since rectified that for me and now I am with someone who fits me pretty good I think. I am better off now then I was before. Leason learned loud and clear (too bad it was soooo expensive)

[Vettezuki]

Sorry, nothing. I very much married the wrong person for the wrong reasons. IShe has since rectified that for me and now I am with someone who fits me pretty good I think. I am better off now then I was before. Leason learned loud and clear (too bad it was soooo expensive)

Better a lesson learned than never learned. :drink:

[heypal]

Stupid married people lol.

You know why divorce is so expensive...cause its worth it.

[SeanPlunk]

Sorry, nothing. I very much married the wrong person for the wrong reasons. IShe has since rectified that for me and now I am with someone who fits me pretty good I think. I am better off now then I was before. Leason learned loud and clear (too bad it was soooo expensive)

Definitely. I've known you a long time and this is the happiest I've ever seen you :drink:

[SeanPlunk]

Sorry to hear that but Amy and I just celebrated our 10th wedding anniversary last month.

Congrats! What is the 10th anniversary gift supposed to be? I remember the 1 year is paper I think :huh:

[SeanPlunk]

Stupid married people lol.

You know why divorce is so expensive...cause its worth it.

LOL, don't worry, someday you'll go down like the rest of us. It's really only a matter of time ;)

[Leedom]

LOL, don't worry, someday you'll go down like the rest of us. It's really only a matter of time ;)

We are talking about Jerry right? I think he is safe until they lift the ban on marrying farm animals! :nutkick:

[enkeivette]

You guys talk about dating like it's selecting a brand of bread in the grocery store. Easier said than done to 'find' the 'right' person. And no one on this forum is Brad Pitt and can pick the best girl off the 10 page list. We're limited by our own desirability and proximity.

Realistically, some of you are not compatible or for whatever reason you'll never find the 'right' person, or even one that is sufficiently compatible to keep you happy.

Do Sean and Ben have perfect relationships? I don't know, but... no, they don't. No one person can keep you at maximum bliss, all of the time. But hopefully you can find someone that tips the scale in a favorable direction, heavily. The problem, as I believe it to be, is that people marry young and personalities change, or people marry prematurely, and hidden personality characteristics come out.

Glenn, you've been with Darlene for awhile, doubt she's hiding anything. And I suspect she's not 19, so she prob won't be changing much when the ring slides on her finger. I predict success. :drink:

[Vettezuki]

You guys talk about dating like it's selecting a brand of bread in the grocery store. Easier said than done to 'find' the 'right' person. And no one on this forum is Brad Pitt and can pick the best girl off the 10 page list. We're limited by our own desirability and proximity.

Realistically, some of you are not compatible or for whatever reason you'll never find the 'right' person, or even one that is sufficiently compatible to keep you happy.

Do Sean and Ben have perfect relationships? I don't know, but... no, they don't. No one person can keep you at maximum bliss, all of the time. But hopefully you can find someone that tips the scale in a favorable direction, heavily. The problem, as I believe it to be, is that people marry young and personalities change, or people marry prematurely, and hidden personality characteristics come out.

Glenn, you've been with Darlene for awhile, doubt she's hiding anything. And I suspect she's not 19, so she prob won't be changing much when the ring slides on her finger. I predict success. :drink:

You're hitting on a couple critical issues. Perfection is a delusion of the human mind, or at least a moving target of shifting priorities and perceptions.

Love and relationships are living things that need to be cared for, they do not take care of themselves with magic. It's really not totally incomparable to a labor of love like on your cherished car or whatever. Put in the attention and get the payoffs. If it feels like drudgery or work, then you've got the wrong person, or car for that matter. But ebbs and flows are normal. Work through the valleys and the peaks get better over time, like a well seated set of rings.

BTW, Disney and other unrealistically romantic notions have F'd a lot of relationships up.

I leave you with what one of my guitar teachers told me (he taught me a lot of things including guitar).

Women. They're the best. They're the worst.

There. Bet you feel better.

[heypal]

LOL, don't worry, someday you'll go down like the rest of us. It's really only a matter of time ;)

I hope to holy fuck not. Life sucks as it is why make it worse? :suicide::huh:

[Vettezuki]

I hope to holy fuck not. Life sucks as it is why make it worse? :suicide::huh:

There there lil' fella. Look on the bright side, things can always be worse.

[enkeivette]

You're hitting on a couple critical issues. Perfection is a delusion of the human mind, or at least a moving target of shifting priorities and perceptions.

Love and relationships are living things that need to be cared for, they do not take care of themselves with magic. It's really not totally incomparable to a labor of love like on your cherished car or whatever. Put in the attention and get the payoffs. If it feels like drudgery or work, then you've got the wrong person, or car for that matter. But ebbs and flows are normal. Work through the valleys and the peaks get better over time, like a well seated set of rings.

BTW, Disney and other unrealistically romantic notions have F'd a lot of relationships up.

I leave you with what one of my guitar teachers told me (he taught me a lot of things including guitar).

Women. They're the best. They're the worst.

There. Bet you feel better.

:drink: Btw, I don't feel that a successful relationship is solely a means of tipping the scale. I believe that falling in love can play a critical factor, but not necessarily in your favor.

Many fall in love with someone who is definitely not best for them. On the contrary, sometimes you don't fall in love with the person that you should, the person that would be an ideal match... chemistry just isn't there. I've been through 5 years of that personally.

[BRUTAL64]

"Perfection is a delusion of the human mind, or at least a moving target of shifting priorities and perceptions".
Ben:
That is wiser beyond your years.:bigthumbsup:

[enkeivette]

:iagree:"Perfection is a delusion of the human mind, or at least a moving target of shifting priorities and perceptions".
Ben:
That is wiser beyond your years.:bigthumbsup: