had a meltdown

[heyitsdatguy]

I.... I really don't know what the hell happened, but I blew up on everyone. I think I destroyed 10+ years of building up my reputation.... I think it might of been because I work from 9am-11pm 6 days a week and one day of just 8 hours. I'm not joking I work 7 days a week..... It all caught up to me... and I exploded for no reason. ......

- Daw Ly.

[Shaolin Crane]

I have the dojo so i get to beat someone when that feeling arises, but i know how you feel, i work non stop, at work, on my own shit, on everyone elses shit. I'd love to wake up one day and say to myself "wow i got nothin to do..."

[Vettezuki]

We're all just flesh and blood and there's only so much stress anyone can take for so long. Your friends (the real ones anyway) will cut you slack and give you a pass. The real point and far more important is that you have to find a way to cut that workload down, if not immediately, you need a plan. Lots of guys die from heart attacks out of nowhere because they push too hard for too long. It's up to you to take care of yourself.

Stress will kill you. Period.

[Vettezuki]

http://i251.photobucket.com/albums/gg298/Vettezuki/WhatWouldJesusDo_zps46bf2950.jpg

[enkeivette]

The chicks there probably got turned on a bit, explore that option. Ha

But seriously, Bens right, your friends will cut you slack and a targeted apology works wonders.

[heyitsdatguy]

The chicks there probably got turned on a bit, explore that option. Ha

But seriously, Bens right, your friends will cut you slack and a targeted apology works wonders.

Well, my friends are still talking to me. My rep.... I can care less these days. I have way to much going on in my life to worry about that.

The chicks do dig that stuff. lol. I know because I was a d--k for years. My motto was,"on to the next one," for years. I wanted to change my ways from "that guy".

[C5Natie]

Details on what happened....? Since you posted it anyway.

[kdracer73]

I know the feeling! I have been working 2 jobs (sometimes 3) for 8 years now. I had a hard time saying no to helping people and making some extra cash. It is very stressful. I have snapped at my family a couple of times too. I have learned to cut back, and cut them some slack also! Those that really care about you, will get over it.

[heyitsdatguy]

Details on what happened....? Since you posted it anyway.

details..... let's see where to start.... It was pretty bad....


ummm well, I badmouthed a good reputable shop because someone was talking in my ear so I believed it was true for a long time. The owner and I spoke and we squared that off... well I'm hoping that we did. He said we're still cool, but who really knows.

I'm a moderator for socalsupras.org and I totally cussed out the other mods and said goodbye to the forums period. With that said... well that's the worst I think. We all got together(mods and admin) and talked about getting things done and setting up meets... well, I was doing that, but what frustrated me was the other mods were still in the talking phase and I was in the doing phase. Yes, I know we all still have lives and other things going on, but if I work from 9am-11pm and I still get more done than anyone else... .... well, that really got to me. I haven't had a day off in 6months and they were telling me to slow things down... ummm the whole point of the mod meet was to get things done not to talk about it. That really got me.

It's been a couple weeks now and I've been checking the forum... yet nothing has been done...

The day I blew up... well was stupid. I didn't have a thought in my mind about anything. I was speeding, late breaking and cutting people off., running stop signs and running red lights... honestly, hoping someone would hit me. Stupid I know.

... What else... Child support... ... Should I give details on that? Here's alittle. I lost my job and I don't make close to half what I used to and they were taking the same amount as when I was doing great. So I'm taking home .. average $50 a week. That's with both jobs. ... I sold my supra after building it for 8 years and collecting uber rare parts and having parts custom made and doing so much for the supra community. Lost my daily and crazy in debt with everything since I lost my good job..

I think I had a breaking point when I woke up that day and realized I have nothing and doing so much when before I did almost nothing and had too much....

[Shaolin Crane]

Sounds like your number one issue is forums. I let them stress me out for a while too, it's the internet and even though there are real people posting you need to treat alot of them like thay dont exist.

Little example, forums are supposed to be fun and inviting and the moment it's not anymore then you need to bail on them, some people stop posting, some have their accounts deleted, and some go out with a blaze of glory. I chose the latter and have been banned at least 50 times from different forums. Guess what? I still sleep at night, my day still goes on and the world keeps revolving. Try laying off forums for a while(except motorgen of course, we're different here) and you'll notice your stress level goes down tremendously. Especially if you're working crazy hours, excessive posting keeps you from sleep. Non auto related hobbies help, everyone here has them. Many of us like to cook, exercise, shoot etc. Try going on a day trip, trust me, it helps.

[heyitsdatguy]

^To be honest, I haven't logged in to anything except here. I actually do feel better not worrying about any of it. No forums, no facebook and not even twitter. It did relieve alot of stress.

[heyitsdatguy]

Let me add in my truck broke down a couple days after. I haven't gotten it running yet. At first it was the fuel pump so I changed that out/upgraded to walbro. It was late, drove it home that night.... forgot to shut the hood all the way down and boom. The hood pops opening on the freeway. Now the hood doesn't close. The next morning the truck wouldn't start again .... had it towed to the shop again. No spark. Got a new ignition coil and getting spark but no fuel.... turns out its electrical. My fuel pump isn't getting power. Truck still isn't fixed I'm taking time off from the shop and I'm thinking sell the truck fixed or as is I don't care.

[Vettezuki]

details..... let's see where to start.... It was pretty bad....


ummm well, I badmouthed a good reputable shop because someone was talking in my ear so I believed it was true for a long time. The owner and I spoke and we squared that off... well I'm hoping that we did. He said we're still cool, but who really knows.

I'm a moderator for socalsupras.org and I totally cussed out the other mods and said goodbye to the forums period. With that said... well that's the worst I think. We all got together(mods and admin) and talked about getting things done and setting up meets... well, I was doing that, but what frustrated me was the other mods were still in the talking phase and I was in the doing phase. Yes, I know we all still have lives and other things going on, but if I work from 9am-11pm and I still get more done than anyone else... .... well, that really got to me. I haven't had a day off in 6months and they were telling me to slow things down... ummm the whole point of the mod meet was to get things done not to talk about it. That really got me.

It's been a couple weeks now and I've been checking the forum... yet nothing has been done...

The day I blew up... well was stupid. I didn't have a thought in my mind about anything. I was speeding, late breaking and cutting people off., running stop signs and running red lights... honestly, hoping someone would hit me. Stupid I know.

... What else... Child support... ... Should I give details on that? Here's alittle. I lost my job and I don't make close to half what I used to and they were taking the same amount as when I was doing great. So I'm taking home .. average $50 a week. That's with both jobs. ... I sold my supra after building it for 8 years and collecting uber rare parts and having parts custom made and doing so much for the supra community. Lost my daily and crazy in debt with everything since I lost my good job..

I think I had a breaking point when I woke up that day and realized I have nothing and doing so much when before I did almost nothing and had too much....


Well, actual sounds like it was as much an epiphany about yourself and your situation than a meltdown . Though they can look sort of the same. :) All you can do is find a path step by step to where you want to be from where you are with what you have. If you don't however, it will be much worse in the future. We're talking rooftops with an assault rifle here. :smack:

[Shaolin Crane]

Kind of truck?

[heyitsdatguy]

Kind of truck?

94 toyota pickup. 22re 2wd

[Small White Car]

I been doing 60+ hours a week for months, haven't snapped yet...



'Swhat 'mother nature' is for.


Use only in moderation...

:p

[heyitsdatguy]

I'm taking time off and I'm not working so much anymore. Truck still isn't fixed so I'm selling as is.

[Vettezuki]

I'm taking time off and I'm not working so much anymore. Truck still isn't fixed so I'm selling as is.

Wise. :thumbs_up: